If someone you love is newly diagnosed, I hope you will read this advice from a retired female oncologist. If you are newly diagnosed, I hope your friends and family will read this.
Good advice comes in strange packages. This is from The Crab Diaries. Her post was titled: Love and Loyalty From the Souls of Dogs, about a friend's dog getting ready to die, while another dog stands guard over his last hours. And no, this is not to insult you or yours. As an oncologist, she says:
"Sometimes friends and families of my patients are uncomfortable
visiting their loved ones after a diagnosis of cancer
,or even more so at the end of life.
They ask me, “What should I say?” or “What can I do?”
The answer is revealed in Nan’s picture of Roo and Barkool:
without fanfare, without words, without tears, just be there."